Avatar hituptv | May 27, 2020


Many questions have been raised concerning abused children, questions which today have still not been answered. Do abused children get to achieve their aspirations? Do they even still have aspirations after the experience? What become of them after the ordeal?

According to the Journal of American medical Association, Child abuse is physical, sexual, and/or psychological maltreatment or neglect of a child or children, especially by a parent or a caregiver. Child abuse may include any act or failure to act by a parent or a caregiver that results in actual or potential harm to a child, and can occur in a child’s home, or in the organizations, schools or communities the child interacts with.

Child Abuse is enacted in various ways: physical, sexual and emotional. Emotional abuse carries the aftermath of other forms of abuse, mostly because it is a consequence of any other abuse.  Therefore it is the height of all forms of abused. The question, what are (abused) children like after been abused is weighty. The effect is so destructive that they hardly recover from the psychological damage. (because this is the point where the effect of the abuse react in/on them).

 Most children after been abused become very emotional and as a result become(s) hyper-sensitive and take(s) things (especially cases similar to theirs) very personal. Usually, hyper-sensitivity triggered by abusive experience comes with hyper-destructive attitudes, among which are: bullying, self-destructive complex, suicidal thoughts, grudge etc. With the knowledge of the fact that abused children are sometimes a threat to themselves and the society, it is pertinent  for individuals to take responsibility of looking out for every child around them whether or not they are related to them.

Talking about the society, no society develops without children. This is why an Igbo adage says that “when you train a child, you have developed the community”. Until every society begins to see child abuse as one of the agents of underdevelopment, the level of development in such societies might be minimal. A comparative investigation of countries with Child Abused uncovered that the United kingdom is the safest place a child can be, while Pakistan is the least. Looking at these two countries one will notice that the development rate of both countries are different, with the United kingdom at it’s peak of development is one of world’s most powerful country in all ramifications, while Pakistan is still at the bottom of development.  With a careful investigation of child abuse and it’s consequences, one would see that it is indeed an agent of underdevelopment. Underdevelopment occurs when a country experiences low level of development characterised by low real per capital income, wide-spread poverty, lower level of literacy, low life expectancy and underutilized resources (quote your source). When underdevelopment is mentioned what comes to the  mind most times is corruption and poverty. Not many are mindful of what we the individuals do to fuel it through the manner we  raise the children in our custody and those outside. Nobody seems to notice the harm child abuse unlashes on a nation’s economic and structural development.

Children sometimes, after been abused, see themselves as “misfit” for the society and as a such would not be bold enough to face life or pursue their dreams and aspirations again and this in turn brings about unutilized knowledge, resources, abilities etc, thereby having a far reaching effect on the nation’s economic and structural development. For instance, if  a child who aspires to become a law enforcement agent (criminologist), is sexual or physical abused, with respect to such brutality may not end up achieving that aspiration if he/she does not find the will to. In this scenario the society just lost an amiable individual not at the moment of but the future.

Furthermore, sometimes parents abuse their children without Knowing that and this is why everyone (parent, guardian, friends and family) should be cautious about how they relate with children around them: through misguided actions, words, expressions, reactions to their children’s mistakes, they can be abused, through comparison, mentally degrading words, children can develop inferiority complex, inferiority complex that shields them from what they truly should become.  In a case where parents force their children to undertake an academic discipline of their choice, against the children’s inclination, the society loses, because such a child would not give his/ her best to what he/she doesn’t want. In other words, they would not excel to the best of their ability in such circumstance. Child labour, maltreatment, overbearing spankings are not just the only ways to abuse children. Children can also be abused by the choices we make for them, however good our intentions are. If not allowed to make the “wrong” choices and be corrected with love, how would they learn from their own experiences? They will grow up making wrong choices, which also is bad for a nation’s well being.

For a  nation to grow, both institutions (government) and individuals should understand that child abuse can be an agent of underdevelopment. Without this understanding, this highly destructive act can hardly be combatted effectively. And for our country to bear the desirous fruits of development,  all hands must be on desk if we must uproot this monstrous fig tree from our soil.

In a Nation where child abuse is on rampage, it takes the only strongly willed and graced with  brave hearts to survive the experience, build aspirations, and achieve them.


Jennifer Nwakaego Martins  Most Beautiful Model In Africa 2020


Written by hituptv